Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
Welcome to Week Three:
Energy Activation
What are Chakras?
Christopher Wallis gives an excellent definition that is aligned with classical Tantra: "In the Tantric traditions, chakras are focal points for meditation within the human body, visualized as structures of energy resembling discs or flowers at those points where a number of nāḍīs or meridians converge. They are conceptual structures yet are phenomenologically based, since they tend to be located where human beings experience emotional and/or spiritual energy, and since the form in which they are visualized reflects visionary experiences had by meditators.”
We activate chakras as a point of power and focus through the use of mantra and consciousness and, ultimately, as sources of divinity within us. Each chakra is like a mini brain which thinks/feels/expresses differently and independently from each other and from the brain. Sexual energy can move through each chakra, in the process this energy refines and takes on different qualities.
Understanding your sexual energy is important when it comes to orgasm, because when you can perceive sexual energy, you can move your pleasure and turn-on.
Once you become more sensitive to sexual energy in motion and feel the energy phenomenon, you can have bigger and more full-bodied experiences, and orgasm takes on a completely different feeling.
If you are inexperienced or don’t feel sensitive to sexual energy, try:
• Moving your sexual energy through breathing, focus, intention, and relaxation.
• Sexual energy is turn-on and pleasure in motion, so if you've never allowed it to move before and only had it sitting in one location (in your clitoris for example), imagine that you have to dig out a channel where it can move through. You do that by breathing, focusing and channeling; once the channel is open, your turn-on will move naturally.
Key components of moving sexual energy throughout our body:
• Breath - activate your energy by using a connected breathe. Studies have proven that 10-15 mins of active breathing before sex increases pleasure & sensations during sexual experiences. As you breathe, your pleasure will move like a river of energy.
• Mind - are you allowing your pleasure to be big, present and free? Have you removed the goal of orgasm and entered into a free state of pleasure flow? Try to focus on pleasure and literally move pleasure by moving your attention.
• Relaxation - sometimes pleasure doesn’t move because of tension, be sure to create an environment that invites relaxation & surrender. Actively relax your pelvis, anus, vagina, etc. and you’ll feel that pleasure can start to move as the channel opens up, and it will happen naturally.
WEEK FOUR REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
Energy Activation
Explore how pleasure/orgasm can nourish, support and ground your nervous system.
What sexual identity do you want to embody in the bedroom?
eg Sex Goddess, Slut, DominatrixWhat shadow or false self do you need to shed to become this new sexual identity?
eg I am not worthy of pleasure, loser, I don’t deserve happiness
“When you know and respect your Inner Nature, you know where you belong. You also know where you don’t belong.”
I N I T I A T E
Each week I will offer new ideas for you to consider “initiating” into your system. What does this mean? It means that I’m inviting you to read, listen, and/or watch a resource and absorb it into your entire being or “system.” This means you will take it in cerebrally, you will also feel into it in your subtle body taking careful notes of the internal dialogue, the feelings or body wisdom cues, and your response, projection, and/or reaction. If the material triggers you or causes resistance this is important information, if the material is easy, feels good, invites you into a place of peace and calm and feeling “at home,” this is also important information. Please create sacred space, and dedicated time to INITIATE this information into your system each week, and keep the notes in a journal for discussion.
Please INITIATE these resources into your system:
Goddess Activation Ritual to Stop Self-Criticism and See Yourself as Divine
What Does Being Sexy And Being Sexually Empowered Actually Mean?
Kundalini Awakening: Signs, Causes & How To Cultivate Kundalini Energy
A N C H O R
When we “anchor” into something, we connect to it…we make it ours. Each week I will invite you to ANCHOR into the theme for the week and this means that I want you to make the thoughts/work/ideas yours, intimately yours. You will be exposed to various resources to consider which each have their own ideas and positions, you will hear my thoughts and the thoughts and input of your fellow sisters in our discussions, and you will be asked to anchor into the ideas that resonate and guide you - in your own way. Please anchor into what feels good in your system, good in a “home” way, or good in a way that you have identified this as your work/practice, and let the rest go.
If something doesn’t sit well with you or resonate with you, let it go love.
THIS WEEK’S ANCHORING PRACTICES + INVITATIONS:
I N T E G R A T E
When we integrate this means we have chosen to anchor into a belief and made it ours and now we are putting it into practice to begin to INTEGRATE it into our system, life, experience. How we do this is up to us, and whatever outside help we call in (teachers, resources, examples…).
*If you are feeling extra inspired by something that came up this week, please reach out to me to share, let’s stay connected.
R E F L E C T
At the end of each week I invite you to reflect on the week’s journey;
isolate it and take note.
Where did you start this week?
What growth, change, new awareness and/or new practices and ideas did you experience and/or adapt?
What further questions do you have?
What tools and resources do you need for future contemplation?
Take note of the resistance, or the list of things that you let go of, be sure these things are healthy surrenders.
PLEASE MAKE A LIST OF YOUR REFLECTIONS TO SHARE WITH MELANIE IN YOUR ONE-ON-ONE ON FRIDAY
“Through deep sex experience, meditative sex experience, you will come to know that this sex energy is nothing but divine energy. Then sex becomes samadhi.”