You are the source of your sexual pleasure & power.
Welcome to Week Two:
The Foundations of Holistic Sex
In week 2, we deep dive into holistic sex practices and how sexuality impacts our everyday. There are five transformational tools that can enliven and activate your sexuality and simultaneously heal trauma in the body from the inside out. They are breathing, sounding, movement, mindfulness and energy.
In this exploration, you are invited to understand in the most detailed way what it means to transform your sexuality, take control your of sexual experiences and own who you are a sexual thriving woman. These 5 tools also allow you to access healing ecstasy and orgasmic bliss, truly helping you get out of your head and into your body forging a deep connection and intimacy to your own inner reality.
The sexual revolution beginning in the 60’s is ongoing today, however the habitual conditioning, repression, shame & judgements around sexuality very much lives in our bodies as a stored imprint. This module is your opportunity to do the inner work and update your nervous system where the old imprints are stored with new information that truly embodies love, celebration, empowerment and your soul’s truth around sexuality in a pleasure practice.
What is a pleasure practice? When you are playing with your pleasure, your sexual turn-on, your erotic energy in a consciousness way and with intention. You are actually using your own sexual playground for higher development and healing. DELICOUS!
Of course these tools can be used with a partner. However, to really get that juicy new body/mind connection of sexual empowerment, solo pleasure practices are the most potent for re-wiring conditioned sexual patterns to what is alive and true for you now. With a pleasure practice you are reminded that you are the source of your sexual pleasure and power, rather than projecting that power onto a partner. Your sexual radiance is yours; it’s not based on what your partner can do to or for you.
WEEK TWO REFLECTION PROMPTS:
Foundations of Holistic Tools
Looking at yourself naked in the mirror, write down every single thing you love about yourself, even if right now all you can love are the small parts of you like your eyelashes or baby toe. Repeat everyday this week.
What is a limiting sub-personality or quality you have unknowingly taken on? How does this affect your pleasure?
What are 3 supportive, conscious sub-personalities you want to try on?
eg Goddess, Queen, Slut, Warrior, Witch, Bitch, Hustler, Rebel ANYTHING! There is no right or wrong here!
“There are many kinds of power, used and unused, acknowledged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling.”
I N I T I A T E
Each week I will offer new ideas for you to consider “initiating” into your system. What does this mean? It means that I’m inviting you to read, listen, and/or watch a resource and absorb it into your entire being or “system.” This means you will take it in cerebrally, you will also feel into it in your subtle body taking careful notes of the internal dialogue, the feelings or body wisdom cues, and your response, projection, and/or reaction. If the material triggers you or causes resistance this is important information, if the material is easy, feels good, invites you into a place of peace and calm and feeling “at home,” this is also important information. Please create sacred space, and dedicated time to INITIATE this information into your system each week, and keep the notes in a journal for discussion.
Please INITIATE these resources into your system:
Confidence and Joy are the Keys to a Great Sex Life w/Emily Nagoski
The Pleasure Principle: The Secret to a Better Sex Life w/Laurie Betito
Holistic Sexual Care: 3 Ways to Go Beyond The Doctor’s Office
A N C H O R
When we “anchor” into something, we connect to it…we make it ours. Each week I will invite you to ANCHOR into the theme for the week and this means that I want you to make the thoughts/work/ideas yours, intimately yours. You will be exposed to various resources to consider which each have their own ideas and positions, you will hear my thoughts and the thoughts and input of your fellow sisters in our discussions, and you will be asked to anchor into the ideas that resonate and guide you - in your own way. Please anchor into what feels good in your system, good in a “home” way, or good in a way that you have identified this as your work/practice, and let the rest go.
If something doesn’t sit well with you or resonate with you, let it go love.
THIS WEEK’S ANCHORING PRACTICES + INVITATIONS:
I N T E G R A T E
When we integrate this means we have chosen to anchor into a belief and made it ours and now we are putting it into practice to begin to INTEGRATE it into our system, life, experience. How we do this is up to us, and whatever outside help we call in (teachers, resources, examples…).
PLEASE BE PREPARED TO SHARE ONE IDEA, PRACTICE, OR NEW AWARENESS WITH THE GROUP THAT YOU WILL BE INTEGRATING FROM THIS WEEK.*
*If you are feeling extra inspired by something that came up this week, please reach out to me to share how you might lead the group in a discussion or practice around this new inspiration: this will be a beautiful way that we can hold each other accountable for “integrating” this work.
R E F L E C T
At the end of each week I invite you to reflect on the week’s journey;
isolate it and take note.
Where did you start this week?
What growth, change, new awareness and/or new practices and ideas did you experience and/or adapt?
What further questions do you have?
What tools and resources do you need for future contemplation?
Take note of the resistance, or the list of things that you let go of, be sure these things are healthy surrenders.
PLEASE MAKE A LIST OF YOUR REFLECTIONS TO SHARE WITH MELANIE
IN YOUR ONE-ON-ONE ON FRIDAY
“Sex is a part of nature, I go along with nature.”